(3) Do what you can to bring your desires and needs into some sort of inner harmony in the family which means primarily your wife. If she knows or can safely be told, try to increase her understanding thru the help of the TV and Wife. book, thru counselling with ministers, doctors or marriage advisors or sometimes her own relatives, providing of course that they have been adequately briefed and are understanding to begin with.

(4) Don't take your wife to impersonator shows! That is a common mistake of anxious husband-TVs. They think it will help and it almost always makes it worse because she sees (and hears) all that which she fears the most.

(5) If things ever develop that your wife is going to see your femmeself whether by plan on your part or by mutual agreement, LET HER SEE YOU AT YOUR BEST OR NOT AT ALL. Remember, it will be hard enough on her in any case, but as she is a woman herself and has some pride in that condition she will not appreciate a parody, a burlesque or a completely inappropriate "woman". By this I mean don't overdo it and try to impress her with your femininity. Play it down, dress simply, wear a hairpiece that is relatively plain and natural not some overdone bubble head or ponytail. Don't stride around like a fullback or sit with your legs spread apart or do other things that emphasize the contradiction that she is trying to resolve in her mind. Help her with that problem, don't make it worse.

(6) If at some future time you should find yourself, middle. aged, single, and without too many responsibilities you can design and set out on a 5 or 10 year program planned to bring you to financial independence, and free of responsibilities, in a home where you can be yourself, etc. and then when that is completed you can make a permanent change in your gender status. This will give you womanhood. You don't need femaleness except for one thing, to be able to receive a male sexually. If that is your big thing in life, you are already reading the wrong magazine.

(7) Be happy in whatever condition you find yourself. Plan for alterations in your mode of life if you can but squeeze the most satisfaction out of today - tomorrow may never come.

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